December 5, 2011 – Routine Maintenance

I have found myself in a waiting period, yet again!  This time I am waiting for my cycle to start so that I can have my sonograms and begin Clomid.  I swear the lesson that is being taught through this is “patience”, but wow do I suck at waiting! 

Doc and I have been asking around to see who has tried Clomid and what kind of side effects we can expect.  Doc found a physician he works with that had taken it to have her first child; she said it made her a “raging bitch”…. That should be interesting!  I’m surprised that they can’t make a fertility drug that has the side effects of super horny and super happy… wouldn’t that be more productive than a fertility drug that makes you super cranky?  Pretty sure that bad moods are not conducive to frequent intimacies. 

While Doc was asking around about Clomid he did get to hear a few stories about people trying.  Apparently we are not the only people with days on the calendar that mark when we should have sex, and we are not the only people who groan on those days.  When we first started trying to have a baby it was exciting and new.  A few months in it became like a second job… six months in and we are figuring out the fastest way to get done so that we can get back to our lives.  This is the sad truth of really trying to get pregnant.  Sadly, the exciting, magnificent, and mind-blowing sex that is present at the beginning of the journey is hard to maintain for the duration.  I mean, if you had your favorite desert every other day for 6 months, would it still be your favorite? 

Life is busy and it is hard to find the time to woo, but it is necessary to maintain our relationship while we are trying.  If we neglect our relationship during this process we will regret it later, when we have children and are supposed to be working as a team again.  We’ve been scheduling regular dates, which seem to help.  Decreasing the amount of time on the computer and smart phones seems to be helping the connection too.  It takes effort to maintain our relationship during this, but it is worth it.  J