Every month Doc and I have the same debate, “if we are pregnant, when do we tell people?” It seems like an easy question, I mean we’ve been trying for 7 months… we shout it from the mountain tops! Sadly though, when you have experienced a miscarriage your perspective shifts a bit. There is a superstition that telling people before 3 months is bad luck. The reality is that most miscarriages occur during this time, as ours did. Doc comes down firmly on the side of “don’t tell”. I on the other hand have a different perspective. One of the reasons the miscarriage was so hard on me last time was because I hadn’t told. I hadn’t told anyone and so when it happened, there wasn’t anyone to talk to. I ended up feeling very lonely and it was just a horrible time, I think not telling made it worse.
This month we were finally able to come up with a bit of a compromise. We decided parents should be told first, and then close friends. After that we would wait to announce it on more public forums, such as Facebook and of course, my blog (sorry guys). Hopefully we will some day be able to put this plan into action! J
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